There is something about the norm that seems to get interpreted in many different ways.

There is something about the norm that seems to get interpreted in many different ways.

Could it be that we all have different views as regards what is the norm? Or,

Could it be that we are so stuck to a kind of picture that depicts what the norm is? Or,

Maybe, just maybe we are yet to access the knowing of differences and peculiarities.

describes a state of specialty and poses a subtle question to ponder on.

What is your response?


When mediocrity becomes the accepted norm, excellence dies a painful death.

The need to be the best or to do exceptionally well which is excellence is what really spurs one to do better and become better in all things. Attaining the best doesn’t always come easy. It takes alot of hardwork and consistency. It takes doggedness and a never relenting spirit. Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown, they say.

Over time, this exceptional attitude of people have made them become people others look up to. We then began to have people who could be emulated probably because of how they did things or because of their achievements, and mentorship was birthed. This act has allowed for continuous achievement of people from generation to generation.


But, what then happens when the people who are supposed to be looked up to don’t live up to their expectation? What becomes the fate and the future of the coming generation when there is no one to put them through and help them prevent avoidable mistakes? How do we survive when the supposed mentors are not worth emulating? What do we do when people shack in their responsibilities out of non-chalance and ignorance?

The ‘let my people go’ and let’s just accept it like that’ attitude has robbed us all of the best and potentials. I remember buying an undone toast (for my belle) from an eatery. I ate it like that and I didn’t feel okay for the rest of the day which cost me missing classes.

Only but a few give attention to details and do the best. Our actions today definitely affect the future… In all these let individual seat up and take charge of his actions because there is someone somewhere who is looking up to you, to be like you, so don’t mislead them and give meaning to every details of your actions. 

How to know when you are being used in a relationship

Some of the selfish acts of your partner in your relationship that you need to look out for.

Most people easily get carried away in their relationship due to deep love they express to their partner. Don’t be fool,  it’s not bad to show the extent of love you have for your partner but be wise.

Many have taken the advantage of their partner to hurt them, and the other partner find it difficult to quit.

The following are some of the symptoms that you are being used by your partner in the relationship. When he keeps giving the same excuse and a lie after another. Find more below:

  • When you are always the one giving :

If it happens that you are the sole giver in your relationship, then check it again, something is not right. The giving suppose to reciprocate itself, no matter how little it might be. Gifts is an expression of honouring one’s personality, and if you are the one who always give and get nothing in return, that means you are less valued.

  • Your opinions are always not considered:

When you are positive about a relationship and your opinions are not always taken, then the relationship has no future. In a relationship, every contribution need to be weigh and cogent reasons should be given for not taking an option. However, when it happens that your views are always considered as nonsense like you are a dullard. You are being used in that relationship.

  • When your partner enjoys the benefits alone:

When what you do is always about the benefits of your partner at your expense, you are been used in that relationship. For example you mostly get the least of things while your partner get the best items.

  • When you are always the biggest contributor:

Yeah source of income differs, however the burden should not be place on one side but gathered with understanding. Contribution may not be in form of cash alone. So if its obvious that until you bring something to the table before things are working out, then check it, you being used.

  • You always feel uncomfortable around your partner:

When your instinct is always telling you something is wrong whenever you are around your partner, or you can no longer trust he/she genuinely, or you are always scared of something. Then is looking like you are being used.

  • When they never show gratitude:

If you have noticed that whenever you you carry out a favour for them, they hardly appreciate your efforts.  It simply means they enjoy the service of another person better. They are only using you, wise up.

  • When your feelings are not considered :

If the outcome of every decisions made are always against your feelings, it only means your worth is at stake. This also means they are selfish and egocentric. You are being used.

  • When they are only nice to you for your favour:

If you notice that its only when they want to get something from you that they change attitudes towards you, nice, calm, asking about your welfare, ready to do some assignments for you. You are being used because they will definitely change after they got what they wanted.


Pay the price for success

When you live for a strong purpose, then hard work isn’t an option. It’s a necessity

According to Oxford dictionary, success is something which happens as a consequence; the outcome or result. It is also the achievement of one’s aim or goal

I want you to know that success doesn’t just come; it is a result of something. You can’t have an amazing lifestyle without sacrificing something. Every successful person you know today has a “price” story to tell.

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Everyone of us want to succeed at something. Whether it’s in learning a skill, writing books, or in marriage. For those who have tried and failed, success seems elusive. But it’s not, if you can pick yourself up and try again.

You can live the life you want, once you are willing to pay the price. With sustained efforts over time, you can do or have most things you want in life.

The people who do become truly exceptional at something do so not because they believe they’re exceptional. they become amazing because they’re determined with getting results. They pay the price of hardwork, consistency, self-control what ever the case might be.


Someone once said that When you live for a strong purpose, then hard work isn’t an option. It’s a necessity

Ask your self “what price do I need to pay to achieve my dream and have a successful life

See you next week by God’s grace. Keep dreaming, keep aiming and never give up.